Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn’t Be The Norm

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Getting married can be stressful. Not only do you have to make sure there’s enough food for everyone (all allergies considered) or that the seating plan is bulletproof, but there’s also your nerves you have to soothe before you say the big “I do!” No wonder, then, that marriage is considered one of the top 10 most stressful life events, squeezed between major health issues and getting fired from work.

Still, try to imagine what this special day must be like for someone with sensory disabilities (for example, sensitive vision/hearing, ADHD or autism spectrum disorder) and the traditional wedding day suddenly turns into a minefield full of potential triggers.

Facing this psychological conundrum herself, TikTok user Ramona “Mona” Jones (@monalogue), who’s been diagnosed with autism a year ago, shared how she and her husband Aaron, who has ADHD, prepared a sensory-friendly wedding that will not only be remembered by the newlyweds and their loved ones; but also by almost 3 million people on TikTok who made Mona’s wedding go viral.

A video of Ramona and Aaron Joneses, a neurodivergent couple with diagnosed autism and ADHD, went viral after they shared their ‘sensory-friendly’ wedding on TikTok

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

To learn how this neurodivergent couple managed to pull off one of the year’s most memorable and intricate weddings, we reached out to Ramona Jones, the author of the viral video and ‘cottagecore‘ content creator. One of the things that inspired Mona and Aaron to take on this Brobdingnagian project— as if perfecting a traditional wedding isn’t challenging enough —was the lack of fitting experts ready to help.

“There weren’t many wedding planners that offered sensory-friendly preparation services,” Jones told Bored Panda. “Plus, I was kind of frightened to use one because I was afraid I’m going have to explain too many things to them and if they don’t understand or get it all wrong — it could be detrimental.”

Before moving on to the main story, we wanted to find out how Mona and Aaron met each other. She revealed that their story began when they were only 15 — only two years short of being together for half of their lives. “I barely spoke when I was fifteen. But Aaron was really shy as well,” Jones recalled.

If not for their mutual friend, the matchmaker responsible for arranging their first meet-up and helping to cope with an upsurge of brand new emotions, their love story might have been different. “Like most people diagnosed with autism, I’m not very good at understanding how other people feel. So having this friend to text me and be like, ‘He really likes you. Don’t give up on him!’ and then text Aaron saying, ‘She likes you back,’ was super helpful,” Jones explained.

And the rest, as they say, is history. “We clicked instantly because we were both these awkward outcast kids. And when you find someone like you — it’s just natural, lovely and quite special.”

Because of their conditions, the couple had to find the right setting and take unusual precautions

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

Like getting familiar with the venue beforehand and cutting out anything that might cause unnecessary sensory overload

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

Understanding how much you can handle and where to position yourself to avoid a psychological meltdown was an important part of the preparation

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

Guests found it odd at first but then grew to like their picnic-like celebration, the couple revealed

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm
Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

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The author of the viral TikTok then explained a few things that weren’t included in the video

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm
Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Mona claims that she came up with the idea to share their wedding on TikTok, which as of today has more than 16 million views — a small portion compared to 75 million people in the world who have been diagnosed with autism — because she wanted to find out if there are other people like herself who had the same experience. “At the time, I thought, ‘If I will make a few new friends that have felt the same, then that would be nice,” Jones told us.

Little did she know, their wedding video would be watched by millions across the world — many of them being able to relate to the challenges presented by the overload of neurological activity traditional marriage ceremonies demand. “I was really scared at first — I didn’t expect it to completely go nuts like it did!” Mona revealed. She admits having to take a break from TikTok after seeing the popularity her video gained. “A lot of people made me feel better with their comments by saying really kind and encouraging things. But I didn’t know how to process all of it. So I took a small break and checked it again a week or so later.”

Speaking about the actual preparation for the sensory-friendly celebration, Mona says her previous experiences at friends’ weddings acted as sort of a blueprint that helped her to navigate this challenge. And one of the things Mona instantly knew she had to find a solution for was noise. “The music is so loud at weddings. Honestly, I don’t understand why people find it okay,” she said. In order to avoid the sensory overload caused by the hustle and bustle of loud sounds bombarding from every direction — “guests chatting in the background, them using cutlery or clinking glasses” — Aaron and Mona decided to employ ear-plugs which they wore until the end of their wedding day.

The main objective of their extensive, all-bases-covered preparation was to be present at the moment of their wedding vows. Something that Mona found extremely difficult. “I don’t like eye contact and I definitely don’t like kissing in front of other people. So the whole time I kind of felt sick,” Jones revealed, adding that the ceremony felt “really alien” to her. And although not having a meltdown as soon they were done with their wedding vows was a major victory for Mona; what mattered the most to her was being present and seeing her partner enjoy himself. “I think Aaron really enjoyed it and that was really important to me.”

Mona’s wedding video was met with awe-inspiring support by thousands of people with various sensory disabilities

Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm
Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm
Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm
Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm
Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm
Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm
Neurodivergent Couple Throws A Sensory-Friendly Wedding So Cute And Relaxed, It Made People Wonder If That Shouldn't Be The Norm

Image credits: monalogue

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